Miscarriage has been this taboo subject for most if not all
my life. I would occasionally hear about it in hushed conversations between
women and see ladies crying without understanding. As a man it is even less
heard about in conversations, not that is does not affect us, but I feel like
it is because we have not been seen forming a bond with these children. Fathers
are often just thought of as sperm donors until they prove themselves as dads
after the child is born. Well that has been what I have seen, fathers do not
get a say in if a woman gets an abortion or really anything until these
children are in this world and the father is given the opportunity but sometimes
not even then.
I am in limbo; the doctors have told us that there were no
heartbeats after going in for our first appointments and then being sent to an ultrasound.
I know that our God is a miracle working God, I have seen them, and I have been
apart of them happening. We are praying life and health be pored into these babies
that are still in my wife’s womb. There is a grief that is with me to a point because
there is a possibility that things can go ether directions. We know that is
this is a full miscarriage that they will be with the Father in Heaven awaiting
us when we arrive.
We are greatly blessed by our community who are gathering around
us and praying with us. As a husband and father, my heart aches for my wife with
the emotions and hormones coursing though her and my children who have no idea
really what is going on with their mother. My 5 year old knows that there was reported
issues with the babies and that they didn’t have a heartbeat and my 3 year old
keeps saying stuff like “baby bye bye” or “baby out.” Like when you first loose
someone close to you I am walking though each day one step at a time feeling
bla and not knowing what to do next. As a man going though uncertain times, and
praying for peace and understanding though out the process, I need my friends I
need my foxhole guys who are gathering around me. If you are going though this
you are not alone there are others who have going though it but just as every pregnancy
is different every loss is different.
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